SMFR
This year's board has started and the action plan for the year is almost ready.
SMFR has widened its co-operation with other Finnish associations and will organize buses to events organized by Turun Baletti, Rsyke of Tampere and Bizarre Club of Jyväskylä.
We have developed our club-nights. There is now more programs, more music and clubs will be organized at least every second month. Clubs are open to all. You will see many shows and live music from our co-operation partners in the form of kinky-, fetish-, bondage- and fashion shows.
Of course, we will once again organize the traditional sauna trip for our members around july-august.
MEMBERSHIP
Why join?
• The basic idea of SMFR is to bring like-minded people together, without any financial interest. All profit our events or membership fees bring is used only for the good of our members (by, for example, organizing bus trips to other associations' events).
By being a member of SMFR:
• You will get cheaper tickets to our events compared to non-members.
• With the membership card it is possible to get a discount when going to events organized by other associations.
• We also organize members-only events.
• You support our association and its activities.
• You get a discount with the membership card:
- Hard Design -10%, http://www.harddesign.fi
- Keltainen Ruusu -15%
- Sin City -10%
- Mosso -10%
- Sex Shop Finland -10%
How to join?
The membership fee for 2008 is 17 EUR / person or 25 EUR / couple (requires living at the same address, e.g. having same postal address).
The following information is necessary when paying your membership fee to our bank account:
Bank: Nordea
Account no: 147030-207947
To message field of the payment form, type in:
• Firstname, Lastname
• Mail address
• Email address (primary delivery method for member information letters and other information)
• Year of birth (we can accept only legally adult people to join our association)
• Number of old membership card (if you have been a member previously)
• Possible nickname you wish to be used
• Mobile Phone-number (if you wish to receive information via SMS in future)
Please note that all information will be dealt with confidentially. All information is only for our membership database, so we can deliver a membership card and information letters to you.
After paying the membership fee, we will mail you the 2008 membership card to the address you have given, or you can pick it up during our events.
Member information letters we will deliver primarily to your email-address.
If you wish to receive information letters only to via standard mail and/or you wish to pick your membership card during our club or other event. Please contact our information phoneline, which is open on wednesdays between 18.00 - 21.00. You can as well email Tintti, who is responsible for administering our membership database, email address: jasenasiat at smfr.net.
When re-joining, we kindly request old members to inform us of all information given when previously joining SMFR, including your old membership number.
After paying the membership fee and after you have registered your nickname to discussion forum of Tuntematon Maa, http://www.tuntematonmaa.net, you will get permissions to discuss on a closed discussion area meant only for SMFR members. In this discussion area, you may also meet other BDSM- and fetishism oriented people.
ETIQUETTE
• You may watch, but never touch without permission: Each person's privacy and independency has to be honored.
• Never interfere with other's sessions.
• It is not allowed, not even just for fun, to harrass, slap or spank anyone, unless you have their permission.
• Before all, remember to honor persons around you in all means, both physically and mentally, including attitudes and opinions.
• Staff have the right to remove a person from the premises if he or she violates this etiquette or generally behaves badly. Staff can remove a person from premises without warning.
• Everyone is responsible for himself or herself.
• Information regarding events or guests has to be treated confidentially.
DRESSING
For bigger events, like kinky-parties, SMFR imposes a dresscode. Dresscode means that, to enter the party, you need to be dressed accordingly. This means wearing fetish- or kinky-style clothing or no clothing. To Danse Macabre parties you can also enter when wearing fantasy- or masquerade dress.
We strongly encourage you to use all kinds of material creatively. For example leather, rubber, latex, PVC, cellophane, foil, plastic, rainwear, spikes, rivets, feather, chains, harnesses, armour, helmets, gas masks, horns or other material. We as well encourage to drag, genderbending, glamour, lingerie, skin paints, nudity and many others. Classic examples are: devil, nurse, priest, nun.. but remember to make your outlook a sexy and/or kinky version.
You may not attend dresscoded kinky-parties in standard street clothing. A good rule of thumb is that if you could enter a normal restaurant when wearing your outfit or if you could not walk on streets without people noticing you, you may not be allowed entry to a kinky-party. Use common sense: These are masquerade, kinky, posing, exhibitionist and fetish-parties, you cannot enter them wearing jeans and leather jacket! ?In case of conflict or difference in opinions, representative of SMFR will decide and you might be requested to modify your outfit to go with the dresscode before being admitted.
In case of conflict or difference in opinions, representative of SMFR will decide and you might be requested to modify your outfit to go with the dresscode before allowing entrance.
If you are unsure, you may always email or call for advice. We will be happy to answer all questions regarding dresscodes or other issues.
NOTE! For our club nights there is no dresscode, you may enter wearing just standard street clothing. However, usually some two thirds of guests will be wearing kinky-clothing.
PHOTOGRAPHY
Photography is only allowed for photographers who have been specially permitted by SMFR. These photographers have detailed instructions for the correct kind of photographing. No one will be photographed without their permission.
During our events, guests must not have their own cameras with them in the party premises. If we allowed the carrying of your own camera, it would be impossible to control the photographing of guests.
If guests are willing to be photographed, for a memento or to be used on the SMFR web-site, it will be agreed between SMFR and the person either on spot or after they have seen the photos. No-one's photo will be published without permission. Even after publishing the photos, related persons can have their photos removed or made anonymous by blurring faces and other relevant data from the pictures.
Photographing of the shows:
Many of the show performers have been planning their shows for a long time and will want to have photos of their shows. In this case SMFR permitted photographer will take photos as "narrow" as possible. This means that main target of the photographing will be performers, not the audience. If there are recognisable individuals in the photos from the audience, they will be rendered anonymous by editing the photos. For example, faces of the audience will be blurred or pixelated. All this editing will be done before sending the photos to performers or publishing. NOTE! Other then for photographing the shows, the same rules apply as for other photographing. No one will be photographed without permission, not even the show performers!
Copyrights of the photos will be always owned by photographers and use of photos will be agreed with the photographer. Finnish copyright law gives a fairly free hand to both models and photographers to agree on the usage of the photos. Photos will not be used without permission from the photographer, models or other related persons. For example, if you give a permission to publish the photos on the SMFR web-site, the same photo will not be used elsewhere without your permission.
KINKY-PARTY F.A.Q.
Is this your first time to attend a kinky party? Don't worry, here you will find some answers to your questions.
What kind of persons attend this kind of kinky parties? Are they all weird?
People attending the parties are just ordinary people. They work or study and have hobbies just like anyone else. They are heterosexuals, bisexuals or homosexuals, they have families or they are single, they can be twenty or fifty years old. There is no way to distinguish these people on the streets, as most will not advertise their "kinkyness" in public. These people might be a bit more open and objective regarding sexuality, but this should not be made an issue: when you have attended fetish/kinky parties a few times and got to know others, the so called "typical conservative attitudes regarding sexuality" will be bypassed with just a shrug. There is no intention of forcing you to "convert to kinkyness".
What do they do in the parties? Will there be an orgy? How will I cope with everything?
Parties will usually have the very same basic formula as standard "normal" party: you meet friends, drink, music will play, all will wear their best. In the beginning everyone will be just "observing", get to know others, check out the equipment and interior. The later it gets, so more people will want to try their limits in front of other guests. If there has been an entry fee, there will usually be some shows to see.
Usually there will be a specifically reserved space for BDSM-equipment. Even though people usually emphasize that it is more important what is going on inside their heads, the party will be a bit different. Only very few will have this kind of equipment available at home, like big slings, crosses etc. (The sling is a device where a submissive partner will be tied to and will "hang"). This means that they may wish to try out equipment that is usually unavailable. In addition, many of us have an exhibitionist side and will get a kick from having an audience.
In the parties a strict etiquette is applied. There are some things you can do and some other things you cannot. It is absolutely forbidden to interfere with another's session without a permission. Therefore, for example, you cannot slap with your whip anyone you wish to just for curiosity, because no-one seems to be watching. The usual assumption is that the Master or Dominatrix will give orders and permissions regarding his/her slave. Couples will agree of their own rules for that kind of situation. And as usual in S&M sessions, you go with the rules of the submissive. No one will have anything done to them they do not want.
Note ! In SMFR parties there will not be a dark room. Neither does SMFR provide any escort services.
What should I take with me to this kind of party?
Organizers will provide the larger equipment mentioned earlier, but it's worth taking other personal or small equipment (for example dildos, nipple clamps, whips etc) with you. You can leave them in your bag at the door. Also whips and other personal equipment, such as personal restraints, including leads and collars, which will of course be carried with your submissive partner, should be taken with you. If you are missing something relevant, people are usually willing to lend their equipment if necessary.
What is allowed in the parties? What can I or we do?
This should be agreed between you and your partner(s). As long as everything appears to be going smoothly according to your and your partner(s) wishes, no one will interrupt you. Remember common sense and courtesy towards other guests. Usually parties will be organized in restaurants and space brings some requirements and limitations, this kind of party is not the same as you would have in your home or some totally private place.
Will everyone else know each other? Will they be staring me as a stranger or newcomer alone? Rookie?
Interest in BDSM and fetish culture is growing fast in Finland, so there will always be newcomers in the parties. They will not know the others any more than you will. Most of people are keen to get to know, so finding someone to talk to (or play with) should not be a problem. Depending on the premises, you might end up spending the night on the dance floor!
Is my dress too daring?
Most certainly it will not be. It is more probable that you will be annoyed that you are not wearing the more daring option. From the other point of view, traditional S&M-clothing is quite formulaic(spikes, rivets, leather, black, PVC etc.), so you might want to think how to refresh it. Your dress can be imaginative, colorful, wild, exciting or funny, even if it doesn't leave you naked!
Is my dress to wussy?
Hmm, if you are wondering this, it might very well be. Showing your breasts or ass fully will not be a bad thing, you will only give a daring impression of yourself!
Can I come alone?
Of course you can. As said before, most of people will not know each other. As a social event the parties are an excellent way to get to know others. So be brave and arrive with an open mind. You will find nice company to talk to. You are the key person for creating a relaxed and open atmosphere in the party!
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-This part will be finished during 2008.